When I watched “Is this thing on?” on Hulu the other night, I found myself wishing that Alex and Tess Novak were my therapy clients. The movie, featuring Will Arnett and Laura Dern and directed by Bradley Cooper, follows the story of a couple facing the end of their twenty-year marriage.
The film portrays the emotional flatness of the separation, with Tess displaying constant disappointment while Alex finds solace in stand-up comedy. Despite the lack of insight into their professional lives and financial situation, the movie highlights the challenging nature of long-term relationships, contradicting the fairy tale idea of “happily ever after.”
A deeper exploration reveals that some divorces may stem from misattributing personal dissatisfaction to a partner’s perceived flaws. The story prompts questions about Alex and Tess’ dynamic, highlighting the blurred lines between relational distress and individual stagnation.
As a therapist, I often witness the impact of failed marriages marked by abuse or betrayal. Many individuals reflect on their experience with regret, wishing they had approached the situation with more humility and self-reflection. This is not to discourage divorce but to advocate for mature decision-making in relationships.
Beyond the initial infatuation, all relationships face challenges that require effort, understanding, and growth. Finding a balance between work, parenthood, and mutual support is crucial for a successful partnership.
“Is this thing on?” may not delve deeply into the characters’ inner lives, but it raises important questions about personal growth within a relationship. If you and your partner are struggling, consider watching the movie and discussing its themes together. For professional support, explore the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.